What are the basic duties of being a table host?

Think of your table as guests that you have invited into your home for dinner. You will want to make everyone feel welcome and comfortable You will want to be responsible to keep conversations going during meals and table applications.

How many people will I be responsible for?

Normally there are a total of 3 couples per table. The Host is one of them.

How do I create a warm and safe atmosphere at my table?

We recommend that you strive to be as honest and open about conflicts in your own relationships as possible. You don’t have to have a perfect marriage or relationship. Most people don’t want this. They want people to be real. This will set the tone for others to be vulnerable as well.

Will I be at the same table with the same people during the retreat?

Yes, you will always be at the same table and your guests will be the same all weekend.

What do I do if a couple is struggling at any time during the weekend?

You are not required to be a counselor. If a couple is struggling at your table be sensitive to their hearts. Extend love, grace and mercy and make a safe place for their hearts emotionally. Your table will also be assigned a care couple that you can refer them to for extended care if necessary.

How many table applications are there that I am responsible for?

There will be 3 meals that we share together all weekend. One each day. During these mealtimes there will be assigned questions for each couple to share at one meal. You will lead the first evening and then help decide who goes next. There is only one other application where you will have to lead a 10-minute discussion. All other applications happen couple to couple.

What are some important things to remember when trying to make a safe place for my table?

The model we use is not to pressure people but to lead them. The best way to accomplish this is best summed up in 3 things.

1. Accept people where they are without pressure to change.

2. Seek to understand why people feel the way they do.

3. Care about people and where they are by validating their feelings.